Yep, It's official. I FAILED! I do not have a date of the month. I did not meet a sexy man at Starbucks. No, sparks flew. No, eyes locked. No, Mr. January for me. Its a bummer. January started so well and with such promise. I hate starting the new year with a loss.
I have a question. I understand that my friends get to select a man for me to approach, talk to and ask out. I understand that if he says no, they get to select another man for me to approach, talk to, and ask out. My friends understand that if he says no then they owe me a few very strong drinks. So here is my question. Do I at least get to select where we go? And where should I pick? A bar? and if so which bar? A comedy club? An improv show? At least there I know we would have similar interest.
A park? A library? Where?
Any thoughts? Any suggestions...PLEASE HELP!!!
I also think that some things are unclear. When I approach a guy, do I have to say, "do you want to go on a date?" or, "do you want to go out sometime" Or can I say something like, "we should hang out sometime?" Any thoughts?
So on a happy note. My students won 2nd place at this basketball tournament. It was this tournment that teamed special ed and general ed student together. My students were amazing. They did so great. One of the teachers had her student make posters for the team. They went early an hung them up all over the gym. She and many of the other teachers brought their classes to watch and showed amazing amounts of love and support.
I vote no on comedy clubs. There isn't enough social time. It has to be a party, bar, activity, or something in a social setting where you're not sitting in a quiet room listening to someone else talk for 2 hours!
ReplyDeleteI agree with no to comedy club. But I do think you should get a massive vote in the location. Though, maybe it should go the opposite so you're faced to go on a date with someone you wouldn't normally go for. Could end up with a totally positive result.
ReplyDeleteI think it's ok you "failed" because now we get the full date of the month effect as viewers in your experiment. I love you friend!
True....now I get the full experience. Yeah. (that was with sarcasm) Good thing at this point I have no shame.
DeleteGo somewhere where if he was there, you would automatically have something in common. Like if you love to paint go to one of those paint a picture wine bars. Or if you want to be a cougar, I could take you to the beach here at Camp Pendleton, and you could flirt with all the adorable boot Marines ;-)
ReplyDeleteMolly D.
Molly,
DeleteI like what your thinking....I would love to see and flirt with young hot marines. Why haven't you invited me sooner. I need some eye candy. When we going?
Jaymie, you definitely should have a say in the location. A universally good place to go is to a coffee shop. You can make it a long or short date, depending on the sparks. It's public, it's familiar and it's usually relatively quiet so you can talk. It's cheaper than a bar too.
ReplyDeleteThat's also is a good thing to offer if you've started talking to someone who is cute. Say "hey, would you like to go for coffee sometime?" Your idea about saying "we should hang out sometime" is also a great thing to say.
Congratulations on your students! You've gotta be so proud of them! :)
PS Don't beat yourself up about January. You've had some frustrating dates in Dec and of course you're going to be disillusioned to get back in the saddle of dating this month. It's a stretch for me and your friends to consider you a failure.
Thanks Dave! Disillusioned is definitely an accurate description. I dont like it......make it go away. Thanks for your support. I really appreciate it.
DeleteDave, you are the total package. I know you're taken but can I clone you and have the other 2nd Dave? Maybe.....Does that work?