Date of the Month-December #1 Sunday Night Dinner

December is a busy month.  I actually have two December dates lined up back to back.  I did not intentionally do that.  It just kind of happened.  I feel like such a serial dater.  

I met December #1 on OKCupid. He doesn’t live far from me and we actually have similar hangouts.   We had been emailing for a little while before exchanging numbers and then just talked by text.  He asked me out and then picked a spot closer to me.  We arranged location and time via text.  Yes a bit impersonal but efficient. 

He picked this really cute mom and pop restaurant.  Even thought it is not far from my house I had actually never been before.  I was excited to go.  I met December in the waiting area of the restaurant.  I walked up and we very awkwardly hugged.   We sat down at the table and made slightly awkward small talk about the menu. Rough Start. 

December #1 is 5’10 and Middle Eastern/Eastern European decent.  Interesting mix. He is very attractive and has a nice smile.  And after the initial rough start he is really easy to talk to.  Our conversation flowed easily and casually.  We did end up talking about a few of the things you are not supposed to talk about on a first date…. religion and politics.  December #1 is catholic and does attend church but he is very relaxed about it.  He is also very close to his family.  

We covered serious topics but also had silly banter about dancing and the show dance mom.  We talked about traveling.  There were a few common experiences that we talked about.  We have both gone white water rafting in the South Fork American River and both taken cruises to Alaska and Mexico.  He lived in Australia for a few years and I traveled there and loved it.  I can’t even remember all the topics we talked about.  The conversation was so easy. 

We left the restaurant and ended up standing outside in the cold talking for at least another 30 minutes. December #1 speaks Syrian and some French.  He started sharing different silly phrases he knew.

While we were talking outside he would stand closer to me at moments then farther away. He was so cute imitating a French accent and using stereotypical French gestures.  I actually wanted to kiss him at moments. 

We also talked about flying.  Apparently he has the same name as someone on the no fly list so every time he flies he get extra screenings.  I was really impressed with his great attitude about the whole thing.  He wasn’t annoyed or irritated at the process or extra attention.  He had some funny stories to share about it.  

It was getting cold so we ended up sitting in his car and talking for another hour.  He did kiss me.  I love that moment before a first kiss.  The anticipation is so exciting.   After he kissed me he asked what my opinion of kissing on a first date was.  Ya know, that was a really good question.  I enjoy kissing.  We ended up kissing quite a bit.  That was also really easy with him. 

He asked about going out again. I started listing attributes I liked about him.  I said he was intelligent, that he makes me laugh, that is nice that he is close with his family. 

I asked him to then tell me what he liked about me….

He said I was maternal……eeks.   I thought maybe I should tell him I am not sold on the whole idea of having kids but that didn’t seem like first date material.  He explained what he meant a bit and said that I am caring and very considerate.  Why couldn’t he just say that in the first place.  Ahh well.  Maybe I am maternal.  He said I am passionate and attractive, and intelligent.  Go me. 

We talked about dating/past relationships.  Well he talked about his past relationships.  I wasn’t to up front.  If he asked a question I would answer but I am not volunteering info.  He has an interesting dating history. 

Since he asked about going out again/seeing people I wanted to be honest.  I told him that I had a date the next night.  He seemed to up his game a bit and asked a few questions about where and what.  He told me if I was still around at nine I should call him and we could meet up for frozen yogurt.

He asked what my last name was so I wouldn’t be saved as

jaymie ok c anymore. I have not saved his number….it always seems like when I save a guys number in my phone things don’t work out.  Maybe that is a silly superstition.  

I am now a little worried that he will google search my name and this blog will come up.  Eeeks.  I am not sure how a guy would react to knowing that I shared my thoughts about the date on the World Wide Web.

Our date was 6 hours long but it seemed to pass really quick.  I would like to see him again but please don’t ask when the second date is.……it just makes me nervous.  The whole point of this challenge was to take the pressure out of dating.  But maybe that is an impossible idea.