Date of the Month-February Wednesday After Work

I may have failed January but my February date of the month went well.  He is a really nice guy and very easy to talk to via email, text, phone, and in person. I would actually not have failed January if my schedule and February’s schedule lined up more.  February first suggested getting together in the beginning of January.  We had been emailing for awhile.  He is really into game nights with friends and plays quite a few games that I had never heard of.  While I was on Winter break he text and suggested meeting up for coffee and a lesson to teach me one of the game.  It was a fun spontaneous suggestion but I already had plans.  He asked me out the in the middle of January.  We had planned to get together on a Monday after work.   Unfortunately, something came up at work that went later than I had planned so I had to text to cancel the plans.  He asked me out again at the end of January.  He suggested a Tuesday after work around 4:00 but I had a staff meeting that day.  So I had to say no.

So when he asked me out again and suggested a Wednesday after work.  I couldn’t say no. I later realized that I was supposed to have class that night.  I am back in school to clear my credential.  So I decided to miss class…..for a date.  It is actually not that big a deal.  The professor teaches two sections of the class on different nights. On the first night of class he said that we could go to the other sections class if we were going to miss a night.

February and I had agreed to go to this Persian restaurant that neither of us had ever been to.  I like that he is willing to try new things. We met at 5:00 for an early dinner.  He had to work early the next day. He is a pilot and flies out of LAX. 

About an hour before we were meeting he text me a picture of himself getting ready.  The text said, “Here is what I look like today.  So you know who you are looking for.”  I didn’t know if he was hoping I would text him a picture to help him with identification purposes but I didn’t.  We arrived at roughly the same time.  I was just walking up to the restaurant when he was getting out of the car.  We said hello and quickly hugged.

February is more attractive in person that in the pictures.  He has a very relaxed easygoing way about him.  He is 34 and I learned that he was married for 10 years.  Actually the divorce isn’t even final.  The divorce was not pretty and I think it took him by surprise.  I am not sure how ready he is to be dating again. I think he wants to be ready to date but wanting to be ready and really being ready are two very different things.

 Later in the conversation he told me that I was his first online dating experience.  I then asked if it was his first date since the divorce but he said no and I didn’t press for any more info. He admitted to being nervous to date this way.  I know I am not crazy so at least his first online dating experience wasn’t crazy.  I told him that I don’t think people meet organically anymore.

February has 2 younger children.  Through his stories and the conversation we had he seems like a very attentive caring dad.  It is a really attractive quality.  I know him and the ex share custody but I don’t know how messy the situation is.  The custody arrangement and his work schedule are what made getting together so difficult.

The food came and February tried mine.  There was a certain amount of comfort between us.  He also wanted to order desert.  We shared this rosewater ice cream. It taste like eating a sweet frozen rose. It was different. 

February brought on of the games that he had told me about with him.  It is this game called Quarriors.  It kind of reminded me of Yugio because it had attack levels and defensive levels as well as other special things but was more complex and used dice.  He taught me how to play.  It was silly fun. I won but I don’t think he played very hard against me.  I wondered afterwards if he had ever heard of Geocaching.  I think he would like that too.  

February is really easy to talk to.  The conversation flowed easily.  He talked about having a few questions in the back of his mind just incase the conversation didn’t flow.  I asked for examples and he asked me, “What is you favorite dinosaur and why?”  The question made me smile.  It was a random question but I really liked the randomness and silliness of it.   Toward the end of the date he said “here are some things you should know” and then he freely shared some random fairly person things about him and his kids.  I wasn’t quite sure where he was going with it.  Did it mean he wanted to see me again?

We left the restaurant.   February did not walk me to my car.  I mean his car was closer to the door so we reached it first.  But still.  My car was like 20 yards away and walking a date to her car is a nice gesture.  He also did not ask me to text him when I got home.  It was an early date and the sun was just setting when we left. Asking me to text when I get home is not necessary but it is a nice gesture.   Is he just out of practice with dating?  Am I being to narrow in my view of normal dating routines? 

February and I hugged goodbye.  He mentioned getting together again.  He is a really nice guy and it was an easy going, relaxed, no pressure kind of first date.  We do seem to have terrible scheduling conflicts which will make a second date difficult but not impossible.