WOW February is kicking my ass. I have been very busy. A good friend of mine and I were talking the other day. She knows about all my dating woes. She asked me where I met February. I informed her it was on OKCupid. She then let out a loud, "UUHHHHH." She apparently is not happy with my online dating forums. I admit, while I have been dating more I cant say that all of them ended up being quality. I have ended up with some funny stories but not much more.
She suggested I try Match. Now it was my turn to go "UUHHhh." I admitted that I don't want to pay for Match and that OkCupid was free. She very bluntly said, "You get what you pay for."
Maybe She is right. BUT I strongly dislike the idea of paying for a dating website to meet guys that will in most likelihood lead to bad dates. I am already putting myself out there in the dating world.
sometimes, I pay for it mentally. Does my bank account really need to get involved too?
I would like to meet March in a more traditional way.
Anyone know any smart, interesting, good single men? Do they exist or is it an urban legend? Or do I need to suck it up and create a Match profile?
About Me
Hello, my name is Jaymie. I am not one of those sappy women whose life goals and ambitions revolve around meeting Mr. Right, getting married, and making babies. But to be honest I have never been particularly good at relationships. The younger version of myself had hoped that I could get it right by now. But, I DIDNT!!!
I remain hopeful and would still like to meet a great guy that thinks the world of me and that I adore. I would still like to find my happily ever after.
I have decided to continue of the roller coaster of dating. I will go on at least one new date a month in an attempt to meet the right guy. If I don’t there will be consequences.
This challenge started in the month of August and will continue until one of two things happens a) I actually meet the right guy b) a string of terrible monthly dates makes me reconsider my stance on relationships and the idea of being the crazy cat lady becomes more appealing. Both possibilities will ensure endless humor.
Thank you for joining me on my adventure.
Saturday, February 23, 2013
Sunday, February 17, 2013
Chick gym
Last
weekend I went to a friend’s Tae kwon do class. The class ranged in age and ability but was pretty evenly
split by gender. There was a cute
married couple, a father and son, and a mix of other individual people
including ONE attractive man that looked about mid 30’s. We made eye contact and he smiled. During one kicking exercise, he and his
sparing partner got a little to close to where I was sitting. With all the loud yelling of “ Hhaa”,
it kind of freaked me out and I screamed like a girl. He playfully laughed.
I
started thinking; maybe my choice of gyms is hurting my dating life.
I go
to a chick gym. My chick gym looks
like pink exploded. It is ultra
feminine and girly. I love it. I take silly pole dancing classes. My upper body strength still sucks but
it is definitely getting better. I
also take hula hoop classes.
Remember how easy it was to keep that circular hoop of fun up as a kid…….its
not easy now. I spend most
of the class picking my hoop up off the floor. Other more experienced people can do crazy tricks with
it. It is really fun and great
workout.
The
only people at my gym are chicks.
So maybe my choice of gyms is hurting my dating life. In a more coed setting I would at least
meet more guys. I might not want
to date them but guys do know other guys.
I do
know that Tae Kwon Do is not for me.
There is a lot of yelling going on. Some people yell really funny sounds when they punch/kick. I
am kind of a smart ass. I would
want to yell, “hazaa” which is funny to me but could be seen as disrespectful.
The
guy who ran the class was pretty funny.
In the beginning of class everyone was quietly stretching. He just talked. It is his forum to rant and say
anything. He did ask a few
questions but it was a pretty one sided conversation. Very few people respond. I wanted to respond while
sitting watching. If I was in the
class I think I would get myself in trouble. They did play an exciting game of group Dodgeball at the
end. It looked fun but I don’t really
like balls being thrown at my face.
I think I will stick with my chick gym.
Saturday, February 9, 2013
Date of the Month-February Wednesday After Work
I
may have failed January but my February date of the month went well. He is a really nice guy and very easy
to talk to via email, text, phone, and in person. I would actually not have
failed January if my schedule and February’s schedule lined up more. February first suggested getting
together in the beginning of January.
We had been emailing for awhile.
He is really into game nights with friends and plays quite a few games
that I had never heard of. While I
was on Winter break he text and suggested meeting up for coffee and a lesson to
teach me one of the game. It was a
fun spontaneous suggestion but I already had plans. He asked me out the in the middle of January. We had planned to get together on a
Monday after work.
Unfortunately, something came up at work that went later than I had
planned so I had to text to cancel the plans. He asked me out again at the end of January. He suggested a Tuesday after work
around 4:00 but I had a staff meeting that day. So I had to say no.
So
when he asked me out again and suggested a Wednesday after work. I couldn’t say no. I later realized
that I was supposed to have class that night. I am back in school to clear my credential. So I decided to miss class…..for a
date. It is actually not that big
a deal. The professor teaches two
sections of the class on different nights. On the first night of class he said
that we could go to the other sections class if we were going to miss a night.
February
and I had agreed to go to this Persian restaurant that neither of us had ever
been to. I like that he is willing
to try new things. We met at 5:00 for an early dinner. He had to work early the next day. He
is a pilot and flies out of LAX.
About
an hour before we were meeting he text me a picture of himself getting
ready. The text said, “Here is
what I look like today. So you
know who you are looking for.” I
didn’t know if he was hoping I would text him a picture to help him with
identification purposes but I didn’t.
We arrived at roughly the same time. I was just walking up to the restaurant when he was getting
out of the car. We said hello and
quickly hugged.
February
is more attractive in person that in the pictures. He has a very relaxed easygoing way about him. He is 34 and I learned that he was
married for 10 years. Actually the
divorce isn’t even final. The
divorce was not pretty and I think it took him by surprise. I am not sure how ready he is to be
dating again. I think he wants to be ready to date but wanting to be ready and
really being ready are two very different things.
Later in the conversation he told me
that I was his first online dating experience. I then asked if it was his first date since the divorce but
he said no and I didn’t press for any more info. He admitted to being nervous
to date this way. I know I am not
crazy so at least his first online dating experience wasn’t crazy. I told him that I don’t think people
meet organically anymore.
February
has 2 younger children. Through
his stories and the conversation we had he seems like a very attentive caring
dad. It is a really attractive
quality. I know him and the ex
share custody but I don’t know how messy the situation is. The custody arrangement and his work schedule
are what made getting together so difficult.
The
food came and February tried mine.
There was a certain amount of comfort between us. He also wanted to order desert. We shared this rosewater ice cream. It
taste like eating a sweet frozen rose. It was different.
February
brought on of the games that he had told me about with him. It is this game called Quarriors. It kind of reminded me of Yugio because
it had attack levels and defensive levels as well as other special things but
was more complex and used dice. He
taught me how to play. It was
silly fun. I won but I don’t think he played very hard against me. I wondered afterwards if he had ever
heard of Geocaching. I think he
would like that too.
February
is really easy to talk to. The
conversation flowed easily. He
talked about having a few questions in the back of his mind just incase the
conversation didn’t flow. I asked
for examples and he asked me, “What is you favorite dinosaur and why?” The question made me smile. It was a random question but I really
liked the randomness and silliness of it. Toward the end of the date he said “here are some
things you should know” and then he freely shared some random fairly person
things about him and his kids. I
wasn’t quite sure where he was going with it. Did it mean he wanted to see me again?
We
left the restaurant.
February did not walk me to my car. I mean his car was closer to the door so we reached it
first. But still. My car was like 20 yards away and
walking a date to her car is a nice gesture. He also did not ask me to text him when I got home. It was an early date and the sun was
just setting when we left. Asking me to text when I get home is not necessary
but it is a nice gesture. Is
he just out of practice with dating?
Am I being to narrow in my view of normal dating routines?
February
and I hugged goodbye. He mentioned
getting together again. He is a
really nice guy and it was an easy going, relaxed, no pressure kind of first
date. We do seem to have terrible
scheduling conflicts which will make a second date difficult but not
impossible.
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Ohh February
February is here.....again. Which means that Valentines Day is here........again. Valentines day is not my favorite. I am not a jealous kind of person but I also don't enjoy having everyone else lovey dovey right in my face. I remember specifically not enjoying it in high school. It seemed like everyone else had that somebody special. Girls caring flowers around from their boy toys and red and pink hearts everywhere. Now I work at a high school and I don't imagine it is much different than back then. There is one define similarity between Valentines Day when I was in high school and now. Can you guess it? Yep, I was in the land of singledom then and now.
There is one BIG saving grace for me this year. On thing that will save me from all the flowers, balloons, candy, and silly teddy bears that will infiltrate the halls. This year my students and I are going to this basketball tournament. When my students won 2nd place last week they advanced to the finals. So exciting. We are taking 60 students to a high school in downtown for the finals. A little stressful but WAY better than being bombarded with mushy gushy lovey dovey paraphernalia all day.
There is one BIG saving grace for me this year. On thing that will save me from all the flowers, balloons, candy, and silly teddy bears that will infiltrate the halls. This year my students and I are going to this basketball tournament. When my students won 2nd place last week they advanced to the finals. So exciting. We are taking 60 students to a high school in downtown for the finals. A little stressful but WAY better than being bombarded with mushy gushy lovey dovey paraphernalia all day.
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