About Me

Hello, my name is Jaymie. I am not one of those sappy women whose life goals and ambitions revolve around meeting Mr. Right, getting married, and making babies. But to be honest I have never been particularly good at relationships. The younger version of myself had hoped that I could get it right by now. But, I DIDNT!!!

I remain hopeful and would still like to meet a great guy that thinks the world of me and that I adore. I would still like to find my happily ever after.


I have decided to continue of the roller coaster of dating. I will go on at least one new date a month in an attempt to meet the right guy. If I don’t there will be consequences.

This challenge started in the month of August and will continue until one of two things happens a) I actually meet the right guy b) a string of terrible monthly dates makes me reconsider my stance on relationships and the idea of being the crazy cat lady becomes more appealing. Both possibilities will ensure endless humor.


Thank you for joining me on my adventure.

Saturday, February 23, 2013

Good Friends....Give Suggestions

WOW February is kicking my ass.  I have been very busy.  A good friend of mine and I were talking the other day.  She knows about all my dating woes.  She asked me where I met February.  I informed her it was on OKCupid.  She then let out a loud, "UUHHHHH."  She apparently is not happy with my online dating forums.  I admit, while I have been dating more I cant say that all of them ended up being quality.  I have ended up with some funny stories but not much more.

She suggested I try Match.  Now it was my turn to go "UUHHhh."  I admitted that I don't want to pay for Match and that OkCupid was free.  She very bluntly said, "You get what you pay for."






Maybe She is right.  BUT I strongly dislike the idea of paying for a dating website to meet guys that will in most likelihood lead to bad dates.  I am already putting myself out there in the dating world.
sometimes, I pay for it mentally.   Does my bank account really need to get involved too?

I would like to meet March in a more traditional way.

Anyone know any smart, interesting, good single men? Do they exist or is it an urban legend? Or do I need to suck it up and create a Match profile? 

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Chick gym


Last weekend I went to a friend’s Tae kwon do class.  The class ranged in age and ability but was pretty evenly split by gender.  There was a cute married couple, a father and son, and a mix of other individual people including ONE attractive man that looked about mid 30’s.  We made eye contact and he smiled.  During one kicking exercise, he and his sparing partner got a little to close to where I was sitting.  With all the loud yelling of “ Hhaa”, it kind of freaked me out and I screamed like a girl.  He playfully laughed. 

I started thinking; maybe my choice of gyms is hurting my dating life.

I go to a chick gym.  My chick gym looks like pink exploded.  It is ultra feminine and girly.  I love it.  I take silly pole dancing classes.  My upper body strength still sucks but it is definitely getting better.  I also take hula hoop classes.  Remember how easy it was to keep that circular hoop of fun up as a kid…….its not easy now.   I spend most of the class picking my hoop up off the floor.  Other more experienced people can do crazy tricks with it.  It is really fun and great workout. 

The only people at my gym are chicks.  So maybe my choice of gyms is hurting my dating life.  In a more coed setting I would at least meet more guys.  I might not want to date them but guys do know other guys. 

I do know that Tae Kwon Do is not for me.  There is a lot of yelling going on.  Some people yell really funny sounds when they punch/kick. I am kind of a smart ass.  I would want to yell, “hazaa” which is funny to me but could be seen as disrespectful.

The guy who ran the class was pretty funny.  In the beginning of class everyone was quietly stretching.  He just talked.  It is his forum to rant and say anything.  He did ask a few questions but it was a pretty one sided conversation.   Very few people respond. I wanted to respond while sitting watching.  If I was in the class I think I would get myself in trouble.  They did play an exciting game of group Dodgeball at the end.  It looked fun but I don’t really like balls being thrown at my face.  I think I will stick with my chick gym. 

Saturday, February 9, 2013

Date of the Month-February Wednesday After Work


I may have failed January but my February date of the month went well.  He is a really nice guy and very easy to talk to via email, text, phone, and in person. I would actually not have failed January if my schedule and February’s schedule lined up more.  February first suggested getting together in the beginning of January.  We had been emailing for awhile.  He is really into game nights with friends and plays quite a few games that I had never heard of.  While I was on Winter break he text and suggested meeting up for coffee and a lesson to teach me one of the game.  It was a fun spontaneous suggestion but I already had plans.  He asked me out the in the middle of January.  We had planned to get together on a Monday after work.   Unfortunately, something came up at work that went later than I had planned so I had to text to cancel the plans.  He asked me out again at the end of January.  He suggested a Tuesday after work around 4:00 but I had a staff meeting that day.  So I had to say no.

So when he asked me out again and suggested a Wednesday after work.  I couldn’t say no. I later realized that I was supposed to have class that night.  I am back in school to clear my credential.  So I decided to miss class…..for a date.  It is actually not that big a deal.  The professor teaches two sections of the class on different nights. On the first night of class he said that we could go to the other sections class if we were going to miss a night.

February and I had agreed to go to this Persian restaurant that neither of us had ever been to.  I like that he is willing to try new things. We met at 5:00 for an early dinner.  He had to work early the next day. He is a pilot and flies out of LAX. 

About an hour before we were meeting he text me a picture of himself getting ready.  The text said, “Here is what I look like today.  So you know who you are looking for.”  I didn’t know if he was hoping I would text him a picture to help him with identification purposes but I didn’t.  We arrived at roughly the same time.  I was just walking up to the restaurant when he was getting out of the car.  We said hello and quickly hugged.

February is more attractive in person that in the pictures.  He has a very relaxed easygoing way about him.  He is 34 and I learned that he was married for 10 years.  Actually the divorce isn’t even final.  The divorce was not pretty and I think it took him by surprise.  I am not sure how ready he is to be dating again. I think he wants to be ready to date but wanting to be ready and really being ready are two very different things.

 Later in the conversation he told me that I was his first online dating experience.  I then asked if it was his first date since the divorce but he said no and I didn’t press for any more info. He admitted to being nervous to date this way.  I know I am not crazy so at least his first online dating experience wasn’t crazy.  I told him that I don’t think people meet organically anymore.

February has 2 younger children.  Through his stories and the conversation we had he seems like a very attentive caring dad.  It is a really attractive quality.  I know him and the ex share custody but I don’t know how messy the situation is.  The custody arrangement and his work schedule are what made getting together so difficult.

The food came and February tried mine.  There was a certain amount of comfort between us.  He also wanted to order desert.  We shared this rosewater ice cream. It taste like eating a sweet frozen rose. It was different. 

February brought on of the games that he had told me about with him.  It is this game called Quarriors.  It kind of reminded me of Yugio because it had attack levels and defensive levels as well as other special things but was more complex and used dice.  He taught me how to play.  It was silly fun. I won but I don’t think he played very hard against me.  I wondered afterwards if he had ever heard of Geocaching.  I think he would like that too.  

February is really easy to talk to.  The conversation flowed easily.  He talked about having a few questions in the back of his mind just incase the conversation didn’t flow.  I asked for examples and he asked me, “What is you favorite dinosaur and why?”  The question made me smile.  It was a random question but I really liked the randomness and silliness of it.   Toward the end of the date he said “here are some things you should know” and then he freely shared some random fairly person things about him and his kids.  I wasn’t quite sure where he was going with it.  Did it mean he wanted to see me again?

We left the restaurant.   February did not walk me to my car.  I mean his car was closer to the door so we reached it first.  But still.  My car was like 20 yards away and walking a date to her car is a nice gesture.  He also did not ask me to text him when I got home.  It was an early date and the sun was just setting when we left. Asking me to text when I get home is not necessary but it is a nice gesture.   Is he just out of practice with dating?  Am I being to narrow in my view of normal dating routines? 

February and I hugged goodbye.  He mentioned getting together again.  He is a really nice guy and it was an easy going, relaxed, no pressure kind of first date.  We do seem to have terrible scheduling conflicts which will make a second date difficult but not impossible.   



Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Ohh February

February is here.....again.  Which means that Valentines Day is here........again.   Valentines day is not my favorite.  I am not a jealous kind of person but I also don't enjoy having everyone else lovey dovey right in my face.  I remember specifically not enjoying it in high school.  It seemed like everyone else had that somebody special.  Girls caring flowers around from their boy toys and red and pink hearts everywhere.  Now I work at a high school and I don't imagine it is much different than back then.  There is one define similarity between Valentines Day when I was in high school and now.  Can you guess it?  Yep, I was in the land of singledom then and now.
There is one BIG saving grace for me this year.   On thing that will save me from all the flowers, balloons, candy, and silly teddy bears that will infiltrate the halls.  This year my students and I are going to this basketball tournament.  When my students won 2nd place last week they advanced to the finals.  So exciting.  We are taking 60 students to a high school in downtown for the finals.  A little stressful but WAY better than being bombarded with mushy gushy lovey dovey paraphernalia all day.