Date of the Month-September Coffee Date

Ok so I met September on OKcupid.  Don't judge it is hard to meet guys.  September is originally from Detroit and on his profile he says that the men out here are "soft".  We emailed witty banter for a few weeks.  He mentioned the fact that he had been meeting a few women who have tried to hook him in and make babies.  That comment made made me laugh and shake my head in disgust over my genders behavior. I am sure that does sometimes happen.  I  guess some bitches be crazy.  

September and I agreed to meet at Starbucks for a coffee date.  When I got there I texted him saying I was there.  I was not fully prepared for the man that walked up to me and said hello.  I hope I covered up the shock on my face.  There are elements of September that actually looked like his pictures but the pictures showed a softness in his character that I  didn't see instantly when he walked up to me.  The tattoo on his neck of a black widow spider didn't help either.  Later, I looked back at his profile pictures to see why I didn't notice the tattoo.  I think it was because of the angle of the pictures.  The tattoo is on his neck toward the back past his ear.   In one picture you can see the spiders leg.  I guess I just didn't see it before.  

I have no problem with tattoos.  I have a few of my own,  I am just not fond of tattoos on the neck but is that a superficial reason to not want to date someone?  

September and I got our coffee and sat down to talk.  I like coffee dates.  It is a low stress way to meet someone and see if you click.

The conversation flowed easily. September and I both have a sarcastic sense of humor.  I asked him about the black widow tattoo.  I sarcastically said that his girlfriend at that time must have loved when he came home with that on his neck.  He mimicked her voice and went on a little tyrant questioning what the tattoo meant "does this mean you think I am a black widow? That I am going to spin you up in my web and suck the life out of you!"  

Since I wasn't attracted to him and did not feel the need to impress him, I was able to say whatever I wanted.  I could be as blunt as needed.  So when he asked me how dating was going I was honest and told him that he was a nice guy but I just didn't want to see him naked"   Now I don't want to you to think that was to harsh.  I said it honestly but not rudely.  September was perhaps a bit stunned but appreciated my honest.  He started laughing and told me that I was awesome.  

He was leaving to drive up to San Francisco the next day and we talked about passing Harris Ranch.  He referred to it as Cowshwitz.  Sad but a rather fitting name.