About Me

 Hello, my name is Jaymie. I am not one of those sappy women whose life goals and ambitions revolve around meeting Mr. Right, getting married, and making babies. But to be honest I have never been particularly good at relationships. The younger version of myself had hoped that I could get it right by now. But, I DIDNT!!!

I remain hopeful and would still like to meet a great guy that thinks the world of me and that I adore. I would still like to find my happily ever after.


I have decided to continue of the roller coaster of dating. I will go on at least one new date a month in an attempt to meet the right guy. If I don’t there will be consequences.

This challenge started in the month of August and will continue until one of two things happens a) I actually meet the right guy b) a string of terrible monthly dates makes me reconsider my stance on relationships and the idea of being the crazy cat lady becomes more appealing. Both possibilities will ensure endless humor.


Thank you for joining me on my adventure.

Friday, November 30, 2012

Feedback........maybe???

I truly believe that first dates are like interviewing for a job.  As I mentioned in the previous post, both first dates and interviews require a great deal of preparation to put your best face forward and make a good impression.  Both often make you nervous and include many different questions about yourself and past experiences.  

Another huge similarity that I feel I must point out is that you often leave both situations feeling like you "nailed it" (and no I am not referring to sex) but then later find out that you were not selected.  This often leaves a person feeling confused and rejected.  And we all know that feeling sucks.   

Unfortunately with both of these situations feedback is never given so you can try to improve yourself and correct possibly small errors.   BOOOO!!!  
It doesn’t seem fair.  So I decided to face this injustice head on.  It appears that November just isn’t that into me.   It’s ok.  I can’t really say that I was that into him either. I didn’t have anything to win or lose so I decided to seek out some feedback from him.

I sent November a message on OKCupid telling him that I enjoyed meeting him but that it seems like he is just not that in to me.  I assured him that I was ok and not crying myself to sleep every night. I then shared my comparison between dating and job interviews and asked him why he wasn’t into me.   I suggested a few possibilities and encouraged him to be blatantly honest. 

Maybe I will get some feedback……..I will keep you posted.

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  1. AnonymousDecember 1, 2012 at 9:51 PM

    My first impression as a guy is that if I were to receive a message like that I probably wouldn't reply. If I did reply it most certainly wouldn't be the truth.

    Now I have been married for 15 years, so I'm a little removed, but I can remember a little bit.

    A reason I wouldn't be into a girl after a reasonable first date would probably come down to a "it's not you, it's me" kind of a thing. It was about chemistry for me. If I felt a spark, I tried to make a flame. If there wasn't a spark... other fish in the sea.

    Now, why wouldn't there be a spark? I'm a grumpy and moody person whose mood changes without warning. But aren't we all? A date where I perceived my date as a high energy or high stress person would send me running. I could keep up with someone like that for about 1 date. But then I'd be exhausted and probably wouldn't seek out a second date. And the girl would wonder what went wrong. She did nothing wrong, but if both people don't feel a spark...

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    1. Jaymie DeanDecember 2, 2012 at 11:39 AM

      Thank you so much for reading my blog and taking the time to comment.

      Thanks for your words of wisdom. I agree, for dating and even lasting friendships it does boil down to chemistry. If the spark is there....yeahhhh (insert applause) but you can not fake or force a flicker to turn into a bigger spark.

      I might not get a response from November or like your saying it might not actually give me any insight. But I am still a bit impressed with myself for being ballsy enough to even ask. I feel like I just took the "bull by the horns" or in this case "dating by the horns"





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