About Me

Hello, my name is Jaymie. I am not one of those sappy women whose life goals and ambitions revolve around meeting Mr. Right, getting married, and making babies. But to be honest I have never been particularly good at relationships. The younger version of myself had hoped that I could get it right by now. But, I DIDNT!!!

I remain hopeful and would still like to meet a great guy that thinks the world of me and that I adore. I would still like to find my happily ever after.


I have decided to continue of the roller coaster of dating. I will go on at least one new date a month in an attempt to meet the right guy. If I don’t there will be consequences.

This challenge started in the month of August and will continue until one of two things happens a) I actually meet the right guy b) a string of terrible monthly dates makes me reconsider my stance on relationships and the idea of being the crazy cat lady becomes more appealing. Both possibilities will ensure endless humor.


Thank you for joining me on my adventure.

Sunday, September 15, 2013

Strengths Finder


I am currently taking the last two classes at CSUN to clear my credential.   Yeah!!!  For one of my classes we are required to read and take the Test in the book Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath.  Tom Rath is also the author of How Full is Your Bucket? So i took the test and check out what I got.....
MY TOP 5 STRENGTHS and a little description of each one from my Clifton StrengthFinder Test are
1 Positivity-People who are especially talented in the Positivity theme have an enthusiasm that is contagious. They are upbeat and can get others excited about what they are going to do.
My Personalized Strengths Insights: By nature, you are known for being an upbeat and sociable person. You make a point of praising young people when they do things well or show even the smallest signs of personal growth. Your obvious joy in their successes affirms and motivates them. Chances are good that you are pleasant and amiable — that is, easy to get along with and likeable. You can socialize or work with just about anybody. Your congenial — that is, friendly — manner as well as your interest in people help you identify common ground, offer compliments, ask non-threatening questions, and effortlessly move in and out of conversations. Driven by your talents, you routinely spark the enthusiasm of individuals. Your own job, studies, or life becomes much more exhilarating when you help others more fully experience their lives. Instinctively, you may be inclined to see things in a favorable light. Perhaps even in serious situations, you are less likely to succumb to the gloom and doom thinking of pessimists. It’s very likely that you may have an exceptional desire to leave a legacy of value and worth — to live a life that matters. This partially explains why you are compelled to make a meaningful and lasting impact on the planet or people’s lives. Occasionally you urge individuals to do their part in making the world, or at least their little corner of it, a better place for all living things. 

2 Woo (Winning others Over)-People who are especially talented in the Woo theme love the challenge of meeting new people and winning them over. They derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection with another person.
My Personalized Strengths Insights: Chances are good that you occasionally tell tales of memorable incidents in your life, entertaining and amusing those around you. To some degree, you welcome opportunities to share your personal observations or experiences. As a result, certain listeners might draw lessons or gain insights from your amusing stories. Driven by your talents, you are sometimes unreserved. Perhaps you share personal information and stories with first-time acquaintances as easily as with old friends. Because of your strengths, you enjoy the companionship of others and relish social activities. You are apt to be the person who moves around the room getting acquainted and reacquainted with people. You typically do not spend all your time huddled in the corner with one or two best friends. Instinctively, you usually look forward to social events. Meeting and greeting lots of people delights you. The more you interact with these individuals, the more enthusiastic you are apt to be about life. By nature, you readily initiate conversations. Your talkative nature compels you to say whatever is on your mind. You have an ability to talk informally and persuasively. You are completely at ease with an audience. Seldom do you find yourself speechless.
3 Communication-People who are especially talented in the Communication theme generally find it easy to put their thoughts into words. They are good conversationalists and presenters.
My Personalized Strengths Insights: Instinctively, you usually attract listeners with your stories, presentations, lectures, or speeches. You routinely seek opportunities to talk about what you think, feel, or have experienced. Driven by your talents, you are loquacious — that is, fond of talking. You gain people’s attention by sharing news and passing along information. You are apt to tell elaborate stories about your personal adventures or professional experiences. Your stories can illustrate abstract ideas, theories, or concepts. They can serve as examples of what to do and what not to do. Regardless of their intended purpose, your tales generally amuse and entertain listeners. By nature, you might arouse people’s interest with your stories or presentations. Maybe your tone, your physical stature, or the forcefulness of your ideas cause others to heed what you say. It’s very likely that you normally pine — that is, yearn or intensely long — to be with your good friends. When this is impossible, you probably become even more determined to pull newcomers or outsiders into your discussions. Chances are good that you sometimes amuse people with your stories. Perhaps you have special techniques for enlivening conversations so everyone involved has fun.
4 Empathy-People who are especially talented in the Empathy theme can sense the feelings of other people by imagining themselves in others’ lives or others’ situations.
My Personalized Strengths Insights: Because of your strengths, you might tune in to the feelings of people. Maybe you cheer them up when they are sad, disappointed, lonely, frustrated, or afraid. Chances are good that you may be pleased when certain individuals share with you their emotions, thoughts, or needs. Perhaps you know some of the things they will say even before they speak. By nature, you might be a gifted raconteur — that is, a fine storyteller. Sometimes you notice your audience’s mood the moment you walk into the room or approach a group. Perhaps this ability allows you to interpret the feelings of your story’s characters. Armed with some insights, you may anticipate when your listeners will laugh out loud, chuckle quietly to themselves, gasp in disbelief, nod in agreement, or shed a tear. Driven by your talents, you may detect who does and does not want to be your friend. Perhaps you place a premium on being liked. Your feelings might be bruised when someone openly dislikes or rejects you. Instinctively, you may be a person to whom people express their personal concerns or reveal their emotions. Perhaps you have a gift for understanding what individuals are experiencing. Sometimes your insights help you ask the right questions or offer appropriate assistance.
5 Developer-People who are especially talented in the Developer theme recognize and cultivate the potential in others. They spot the signs of each small improvement and derive satisfaction from these improvements.
My Personalized Strengths Insights: It’s very likely that you find it quite easy to welcome many sorts of youthful newcomers and outsiders into your circle. You are inclined to become involved in activities that interest them. Because of your strengths, you sometimes throw yourself into your work even when you are personally inconvenienced. To some extent, you place the well-being of others above your own. Driven by your talents, you are overjoyed when you can credit a person or a group with being successful. The more you affirm others, the healthier you are emotionally physically, mentally, and even spiritually. Chances are good that you can sometimes place the needs of others ahead of your own. Instinctively, you are keenly aware of the emotions individuals experience when they participate in various activities or contests. You likely determine ahead of time who can have fun whether they win or lose. You predict who will be greatly disappointed by defeat or overjoyed by victory. 

Interesting Huh...   Ok despite the fact that positivity is my number 1strength.....Sometimes I can feel down too.   That sometimes just happens to be RIGHT NOW!!!  I could use some positive vides thrown my way.

So if you have any awesome inspirational thoughts.  Feel free to share.  Ricky, Sometimes sharing is caring.  

Thanks!

Sunday, September 8, 2013

Words of Wisdom and Insight from the Youth of Today

As you probably know I am a teacher.  Which means I am blessed with the honor of spend my days with wonderful students.  They are often amusing.

I wanted to share with you some of the little tidbits that have been shared with me that I found worth sharing.

One girl was talking about someone she was interested in.  She said they had gone out once.  She very easily said, "There was an audition but no call back."   Dating is a little like acting.  It requires learning some lines (good topics to start conversations), a visit to hair and make-up, and you can yell, "Cut! Thats a wrap. " at any time to end a bad date.

I also recently got into a debate with a student.  The topic was, What is old?  I am not sure why the topic was brought up.  The students asked my age.  I was truthful.  See,   I model honesty for my students.  He commented that I didn't look that old.  What a smart kid.   He asked if I had kids.  So i told him no.  He replied, "Thats why you look young.  Kids make you old."  I was intrigued by this comment so I probed a little bit.  I asked him, " What about someone who was 45 year old but didn't have any kids."  I know that 45 is the new 35 but to a 17year old......45 is old.  He stuck to his originally idea and said that a 45 without any kids is young.  Then I asked, "What about a 16 yr old who does have kids."  He quickly informed me that she was old.

Interesting notion...... I could see his thought process.  I am 32 years old which is young in the grand scheme of things but many of my friends do have kids.  At 32 with no kids and no serious relationship, I can be as selfish as I want.  I do not have to worry about much.  I have the normal stresses of work and school but I do not have to worry about anyone else's wants or needs.   Which does make me young.... or at least keep me young.  Yes, one positive thing to being single.

My little sister is 25.  She is single with no kids.  Many of her friends have kids.  I think she has more friends with children than I do.  Her best friends kid calls us both Aunt.  She is almost 5 and a super cute kid.  Last weekend she came to visit me and graced me with a story.  It was a story about when she grows up and is 25.   She is going to get married and wear a crown.  I told her that I was older that 25 and I wasn't married.  She made this face that I can only describe as a grimace.  It wasn't the reaction I had hopped for.








Sunday, September 1, 2013

Tinder gets the Finger

So as I told you before I joined Tinder.  It has been an amusing month.  

Tinder has been one of my favorite ways to waste time.  It do find amusement in checking out the profiles and swiping right or left.    In all other ways.....It sucks!

Here is a few examples of why Tinder gets the Finger.

#1
First conversation on tinder.  
This guy I matched with sent me a message and said, "Hey".  So I responded by saying, "Happy Sunday"  His response was that I could make his sunday more happy so I asked how.

He responded by suggesting that I sit on his face.  I know what you are thinking.   Wow this is a very crude comment.  Your possibly thinking EWWW or HOW RUDE.  You are probably wondering if I replied.  And what I said.  And what you would have said in that situation.   

I wont leave you to wonder for too long.  I did respond. 
I said, "Really, does that ever work for you?  After you say that do the girls all swoon?  

He informed me that No, that line has not worked yet.  I responded and said, "Yet you keep trying it.  Wouldn't your mother be proud."  I think he sensed my sarcasm.  

#2
Another Conversation on Tinder
This other guy I was chatting with for a little bit asked me,  "Do you know what this site is intended for?"I said I wanted him to enlighten me.  Spell it out.  We might be having different ideas"

He responded with one word, "F&#KING"  I replied, "I must have missed that when I read the description before uploading the app." 

#3
LOTS and LOTS of young guys with pictures of their abs and chest.  I have now seen the reflection of inside more bathrooms than I can count.  

#4
Apparently shirtless pictures do not discriminate by age.  I came across a profile for a 50 yr old with his shirt off.  You cant erase memories like that.  

#5
While wasting time one night I came across the best of the worst.  Steve's profile was a picture of a penis and there was some text that said, "Wanna lend me a hand I Love getting handjobs;)"

#6
This was not the worst or the best but I found it amusing.  This guys tagline was, "I piss awesomeness"

#7
I came across a lifestyle pusher.  His tagline was full off emoticons.  It said, "Even if you swipe left....at least switch from cows milk to almond milk or coconut milk....You wont regret it (Thumb up, heart, Thumb up).  

#8
I was talking to this guy for about a week.  Really funny banter.  He was interesting to talk to and not creepy at all.  One night he asked what I was up to.  I told him I was hanging out with my roommate.  I asked if he lived alone.  He then was honest and said, "Married"WTF!  So I say, "and your wife doesn't think it's odd that you are on tinder?"  I said Tinder by name instead of calling it a dating site.  He told me that she does not know.  What a jerk.  I do not approve of that message.  But it would be pointless to say anything about his behavior.  So i replied,  "Ok well,  If you have any fun single friends that enjoy long walks on the beach, making spaghetti, and spooning you should lead them my way." 

I need to delete the app but it is such a fun waste of time.  It is improving my hand eye coordination with the rapid fire swiping left or right.