Sometimes friends say the nicest things. Over a glass of wine, a friend of mine said some really nice things about me and the ways I had impacted her. I adored hearing it but suggested that she write it down and send it to me. I didn't want to forget what she had said (come on we were drinking) and I told her that it would be nice to read when I was feeling defeated by the dating monster of just life in general. She sent it to me a few days later. Her message made my day, week, and probably my year. I actually got this message from my friend about two months ago.
Boys and girls, Today is that day. I needed a pick me up. The dating monster is messing with me a bit but life in general is kicking my ass.
I am teaching middle school for summer school. WOW!! Middle School is a different beast. Hormones are racing. One of my student has a crush on a much older boy. I could practically see the chemical reaction when she saw him. He did not return her admiration and she was crushed. I saw first hand why it is called a crush. I hated seeing her crying. So sad. It also made me think of the various time I have cried over a guy through the years. I can only remember a few directly. Maybe another time I will share one of those stories but right now I just want to focus on the positive.
Do you remember sending notes like this?
Check out a more modern day example I found...
Here is the email......and no this isn't a ploy for more compliments. But, If you wanted to tell me how awesome I am.........I would LOVE it.
This email comes to you as a proclamation of how your positive energy and attitude towards dating, being single, and just living and enjoying life has influenced myself making adjustments to better my own thoughts and actions, as I am sure you have done for others as well.
Being single and dating can be very daunting for some people (and maybe at one time, yours truly who would have preferred being curled up into the fetal position instead). I really admire how open you are about your experiences, and your complete willingness to have these experiences. You are a smart, independent woman who is truly content being single, lives and enjoys life, and just sees having a man in your life as an added bonus. You have taken the pressure out of dating and have found a way to just enjoy the process of dating (not an easy feat!) You have classified your experiences as funny, ironic, fun, crazy, and interesting...rather than traumatic, or a waste of time. And because of this, I know in my heart, you will find yourself in that partnership that will add so much joy to your life at some point. Then it will be time to pass the torch to the rest of the singletons who need your energy and positivity to make dating life a positive one!
I am in such a better headspace now about dating and single life, about letting go of someone who was obviously not right for me and acknowledging that it was more about the companionship than anything else. I have not felt this content and confident in years. When I reflect on how I got here in these past few months, your influence gets most of the credit :) One more single woman back in the dating game!
Thanks for being your spunky, funny, confident, and smart self Jaymie Dean, and keep of on trucking. My only advice for you, don't be afraid to open your heart back up when the time is right. It's OK to be a girl sometimes. And it's okay to "fall" eventually. You might get hurt, or it might be wonderful. Your a strong woman and can handle either. And you will learn something. And then have a good blog entry :)
Cheers!
Tonight I saw one of the guys I distinctly remember crying over. I went to my first quinceañera. It was for my friends daughter. She looked so beautiful. I also saw this guy I dated that I met through the friend. We only dated for a few months and it ended almost a year ago but I did really care for him. So I wasn't sure how I would feel about seeing him again. Everything was fine and I am so glad that it wasn't awkward at all. We talked a bit about what was going on in our lives. We were both friendly and seemed equally comfortable. So yeah!!
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