Date of the Month-April Sunday Late Lunch

While I just barely managed to find a March in time but I successful had an April in the first weekend of the month.  YEAH!!!! 

You probably could guess how I met April.  We first started emailing back in December but somewhere just before Christmas I apparently got busy and forgot to write him back.  I was deleting old messages on OkStupid and noticed my mistake.  I emailed him and apologized.  We emailed and he asked for my number.  On Sunday, I was feeling lazy yet slightly restless.  He text me and asked me out for lunch.  I suggested a late lunch.  We figured out a location and confirmed the time.  About an hour before, he text me again to make sure we were still on.  I confirmed the time again.

We had arranged to meet at this little mom and pop Thai place.  I ended up being like 10 minutes early so I text and said I was there.  He texts back saying he was running late and blamed traffic.  He was 20 minutes late.  It was a little annoying considering we had confirmed the time, TWICE. 

April is Chinese Korean or Korean Chinese (however you look at it).  I also had to ask him what brand of Asian he was.   April gave me a very nice compliment about the color of my eyes.  I was facing the windows and said I was probably squinting because of the light.  He made some comment about then my eyes being like his.  HUH….that was NOT what I meant.  March and April are both Asian.  Thinking about that made my mind wander to thinking about the validity of the stereotype about Asain men.  Come on, you know the one I am taking about….about the size of their package being very small.

Anyways, April is 36.  I believe he is the oldest guy I have dated since I began this challenge.  On a side note….A few months ago, a co-worker and I were at a training at the district office.  He is mid 40’s and married to a younger woman (at least 8 years younger but maybe more).  We were eating lunch in this large basement cafeteria and talking about dating.  He had some interesting insight to the male brain.  He suggested that I should go for men that are older at least 36 to 38.  He said it was because by then guys have finally figured out some things and have some order.

Well, April is 36 and still working on putting things in order.  He has worked for the same company since after high school and didn’t seem to particularly like it.  He has intermittently got to school and is back in school to get a BA but has at least a year more till he is finished.  

Just in case you don’t know I have a Masters of Education in Teaching and Learning.  I don’t want this to come off as bragging and I am not saying I am better than him or anyone else.  Cuz everyone who reads this knows that my spelling sucks and sometimes I invent my own rules of grammar.  I just think that an education is an important aspect in another person.  Finishing a degree shows dedication, perseverance, and some book smarts.  I wouldn’t call it a deal breaker but it sways the vote a bit. I also just happen to believe school is cool. Hell I am still in school.

He asked how often I got out.  I thought it was kind of a weird question but I was honest and said that I try to go out at least once a month so that I don’t give up on dating.  He said, “oh so I am filling your quota.”  And I said, “yes,  you are.”   I asked him about his dating habits but it seems like he doesn’t date very often. 

Lunch went well.  The Thai place was pretty good.  The conversation was easy and he laughed at my witty banter.  I don’t remember what we were talking about or what I exactly said but he replied and said, “So do you leave the lights on?”  WTF…..It was a bizarre comment. He also asked me it I wanted kids.  Yeah, I do not like that as a first date question. 

We finished lunch and he picked up the check.  He suggested going to Starbucks.  I had some errands to do so I agreed.  I waited in my car for him to pull behind so he could follow me to Starbucks. 

Guess what! He drives a Jetta.  I always think of those as chick cars.

We talked for like another 30 minutes at Starbucks. Then I said I had to go.  We talked to the cars.  He directly said, “Give me a hug”.  Huh kinda demanding.  I complied with what I planned on being a quick hug.  He squeezed on to me tightly and I could feel his lips on my cheek.  He kept holding on to me with his lips on my cheek for an awkwardly long time.  I tried to let go but he was still holding on.  I moved my head and I guess he thought I was going to kiss him. He moved his head and pressed his lips to mine.  He was still hugging me.  He kept his lips pressed to mine for another awkwardly long time.  I moved my head back and he finally let go.  I said goodbye and left. 

The next morning I got a text from him saying good morning and asking me if I was free after work.  I had plans so I told him I couldn’t. He has text me a few times over the week.