Date of the Month-March Dinner Friday Night

My friend Elizabeth told me in not such a delicate way that two almost dates NO NOT count as a date.  So it is a good thing that I did successful have a March date of the month.  March is the guy I had plans with for breakfast last weekend that rescheduled for Friday night.  So the date did happen. 

I mentioned in my last post that I met March on OkCupid.  We emailed back and forth for over a month before he suggested going out. 

For this date March had suggested meeting at a Japanese restaurant in Studio City at 9:00.  It sounded like a good plan.  I missed the street to turn on and Suri got me all kinds of lost.  I finally found it and parked on the street.  I got out of my car to read the slightly confusing parking signs that told me that there is NO parking after 8pm.  When I turned around ……there was a cop already there ready to jump.  I explained that I was reading the signs and was going to move my car.  I started moving my car and when I was out of the cops view I called March to ask where he had parked.  Yep he had parked on the street too.  I explained that there was no parking past 8pm and that a cop was there.  He walked outside and I could hear him talking to the cop before the line went dead.  He called me back but was not as lucky and got a ticket.  Oh and the restaurant closed at 9:00.  So the date was off to a rocky start.   We planned to meet at another Japanese restaurant down the street. I was a little worried that the parking ticket and restaurant switch would ruin the night.  Thankfully it didn’t.  March didn’t seem to let it bother him at all.  He was easy going and had a nice friendly smile. He was born and grew up in the Philippians.  His accent is more noticeable over the phone then in person. 

I was able to correctly guess that March was Filipino but I am typically not very good at that game.  I cannot identify where someone is from based on characteristics or their last name.  Recently, I was at lunch with a friend of mine who is Asian but I didn’t know where specifically she was from.  I was stumbling and could not for the life of myself think of the word ethnicity and asked her, “What brand of Asian are you?”  She thought it was hilarious.  I wasn’t trying to be an ass.  I just wanted to know where she was from.  I shared that story with March.  He also found it to be funny.  I am glad I can amuse my friends and dates.

March made the comment that I look different in person than in my pictures/profile.  Before I could ask how or if it was a good difference or bad difference he said I was much cuter in person.  What a charmer. 

March and I talked about work, volunteer work, family, and the cultural difference between here and the Philippines.  He is really easy to talk to and there were no awkward moments of lulls in the conversation.  It was interesting to hear about his experiences moving here.

March is very active.  He plays volleyball, snowboards, and ran this crazy obstacle race challenge thing. He is an animated storyteller and told an interesting story about a recent snowboarding trip with his less experienced friend and a black diamond trail. It sounded pretty intense. We talked about playing team sports. I explained that I am not very competitive.  If someone’s is going to knock me down to get a ball……. then they can have it. 

He was very impressed by my experiences with stand up comedy and making strangers laugh.  Although I think that I wrote about that on my OkCupid profile so he possible forgot I mentioned it in there or didn’t actually read the whole profile.  So March’s attention to detail might be questionable but he was very complimentary.   He complimented me about being smart, funny, and attractive. He is so smart. 

He walked me to my car and we hugged goodbye.  I did get a nice text from him a little later that said drive safe…..good night.

The text after the date was sweet.  It is good to know that I am a fun date. …………Everyone should want to date me.  Ok but not crazies. I don’t want crazies to want to date me.

Two Almost Dates

So this week I am that glorious thing called SPRING BREAK.   I love it.  I decided to be a little productive and volunteered at the Make-A-Wish office for two days.  I also had two dates lined up.  Did you notice the use of the past tense?

The first one was with this guy that I met on OkStupid.  We had been emailing for a bit when he suggested going out.  He said, "I think its time for us to grab a coffee, talk, flirt, and maybe kiss."  I thought his casual confidence was attractive.  Last Friday, we were texting and made plans to meet for breakfast on Sunday.  I suggested a place in Burbank.  He agreed and I said I would send the address.  Well, It totally slipped my mind.  So Saturday afternoon I text the address and casually ask how his day is going.  No response.  Saturday night and still no response.  I wasn't sure if we were still on for the next morning. 

Sunday morning, I send a text asking if we were still on for breakfast.  He replayed 20 minutes later apologizing for not feeling well and needing to cancel.  He said he didn't want to get me sick. Ok so no breakfast date....at least I could go back to sleep.  

I text back telling him to feel better.  He sent me a text the next day and we have talked a bit over the week.  He tried to reschedule our date for this weekend and asked about Friday night or Saturday morning.  I am busy Saturday morning.  So our rescheduled date is tentatively set for Friday but he also mentioned something about needing to make sure he could move something.  But if he cancels I will not reschedule. 

I also had a blind date set for tonight.  We had text a bit and arranged to meet at a restaurant in Burbank at 7:30.  Yesterday, he sent a nice text confirming the date and said he looked forward to meeting me.  This morning he sent a text to say have a great day.  We text a bit and he confirmed the time and location.  I was volunteering today at the Make-A-Wish office in West La.  I left there a little after 5:30 knowing that I would have to sit in some traffic to get over to Burbank.  I finally got there at 7:15, parked, and looked at my phone.  There was a text from him sent at 5:46 that said "I'm really sorry but can I get a rain check for tonight.  I won't be able to make it."  Ahhhh.  Why didnt I check my texts? 

So this week I had two almost dates.  My question is does TWO almost dates equal the ONE date of the month quota? 

I think YES. 

I still need a March.....

I still need a March.  My motivation for online dating is at an all time low.  I am busy and important.  I decided to be a little more vocal about asking people I know to set me up.

Last week I went to get my taxes done.  I learned that I have been going to the same wonderful woman for at least five years.  She laughed when I said, “I think this is my longest relationship.”   She knows my marital status and even commented on it so I decided to ask her about anyone she knows that she could set me up with.  I figure she meets so many people and already knows their marital and job status.  She might be able to think of someone.  She pondered a moment and then suggested that I go to church.

Huh……not quite the answer I was hoping for.

So I am still on the hunt for March when I run into one of my teachers from high school.  He is a great teacher and I respect his passion and enthusiasm.   We were talking for quite a while and I was making different jokes.  He even commented that he didn’t remember me being this funny.   SWEET, I think I am pretty funny and it is nice when someone else does too.  I decided to ask him about a March.  I said quite bluntly that I needed a March date and asked if he knew anyone.  He thought a minute and then said he might.  YEAHHHHHHH. 

But as of today I still need a March.  I am going to throw this out to you….I need a March……Can YOU think of anyone?

I realize that you might be hesitant to set me up with someone.  Especially someone you are actually close with or love.  Probably for a verity of reasons including the fact that you don’t want to read about whatever happens on the date and you might actually be nervous about what I would say.  I never use names but if you set it up, then you would know. 

I DO need a March.  So here is what I am suggesting.   Don’t set me up with one of your family members or close friends……..instead set me up with the co-worker you don’t actually like or your annoying neighbor.  I will have a March date and you can laugh about it.  It’s a win-win.

He's Just Not That Into You

So I was mindlessly flipping through channels when I can across the movie, He's Just Not That Into You.  I had seen the movie once before and it is NOT my favorite chick flick.  The book was better. 

However, I did decide to let the remote have a rest.  The movie has some big names in it including Ben Affleck, Sasha Alexander, Jennifer Aniston, Drew Barrymore, Kevin Connolly, Bradley Cooper, and Scarlett Johansson.  Justin Long and Ginnifer Goodwin play the main characters, that predictably enough, end up getting together. Yep,  it is a chick flick.  The book does not end as sappy. 

Anyways, I adore Drew Barrymore’s character in the movie.  She was given some great lines about dating.  Her lines were funny yet truthful. So I used the magical power of the remote to rewind live TV and write down her lines so I could share them with you.  This is what she had to say….

about meeting people.

“Things have changed. People  don’t meet organically anymore.  If I would like to make myself more attractive  to the sex I don’t go out and get a hair cut. I go and update my profile.”

         about ways to communicate and waiting to hear from someone.

“I miss the days when you had one phone and one answering machine and that one answering machine had one cassette tape and that one cassette tape either had a message form a guy or it didn’t.

And now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies.  It’s exhausting.”

Justin Long’s character did have one funny note worthy quote.  He said, “If a girl likes me, great.  If not, there is plenty more out there. Probably with smaller pores and bigger implants.”

So what would be our female equivalent to that?

Feel free to fill in the blanks and leave a comment. 

If a guy likes me great. If not, There is plenty more out there. 

Probably with ___________ and ___________________.

WOW....It's March Already.

Is it just me or did February fly by?  I feel like I didn't stop once.  I have been crazy busy with work and school.  Oh I think I forgot to mention that I am back in school clearing my teaching credential.  I am only taking two classes and the classes don't even actually meet every week.  But it still a LOT of work and another thing to juggle.  

In case you were wondering, No, there doesn't seem to be any attractive single men in my classes.  Ahh well, at least I can focus on the teacher and actually pay attention without those annoying intermittent period where I find myself imagining one of the guys naked.  I can be so much more productive. 

I do feel that I started March off right.  This weekend my BFF Elizabeth was invited to go on a Party Bus to Vegas and she was thoughtful enough to include me. It was some quality and much needed friend time. 

Two guys planned the Party Bus to Vegas.  They each invited their friends and their friends of friends.  It was such a diverse group of people.  The group ranged from late 20’s to a few people in their mid 60’s.  It was a pretty even mix of male and female in a range of ethnicities.  Some of the guys were pretty sexy.  One of the guys that planned the event is gay.  I only mention that to let you know that the whole group is very gay friendly.  Which led to a different dilemma……..the question of gay or straight? 

I met Elizabeth’s friends that had invited her on the bus.  And I instantly loved them.  They were welcoming and silly.  They are also gay. The four of us quietly tried to solve the mysterious question of gay or straight about all the sexy men there. I was excited to find another way online dating makes it easier to know…..it is listed right on their profile. 

The bus ride up was filled with a lot of alcohol, singing and dancing, and a whole lot of ass slapping as people walked down the aisle.  I had a blast with Elizabeth and her wonderful friends. 

I am ready for March.