I
may have failed January but my February date of the month went well. He is a really nice guy and very easy
to talk to via email, text, phone, and in person. I would actually not have
failed January if my schedule and February’s schedule lined up more. February first suggested getting
together in the beginning of January.
We had been emailing for awhile.
He is really into game nights with friends and plays quite a few games
that I had never heard of. While I
was on Winter break he text and suggested meeting up for coffee and a lesson to
teach me one of the game. It was a
fun spontaneous suggestion but I already had plans. He asked me out the in the middle of January. We had planned to get together on a
Monday after work.
Unfortunately, something came up at work that went later than I had
planned so I had to text to cancel the plans. He asked me out again at the end of January. He suggested a Tuesday after work
around 4:00 but I had a staff meeting that day. So I had to say no.
So
when he asked me out again and suggested a Wednesday after work. I couldn’t say no. I later realized
that I was supposed to have class that night. I am back in school to clear my credential. So I decided to miss class…..for a
date. It is actually not that big
a deal. The professor teaches two
sections of the class on different nights. On the first night of class he said
that we could go to the other sections class if we were going to miss a night.
February
and I had agreed to go to this Persian restaurant that neither of us had ever
been to. I like that he is willing
to try new things. We met at 5:00 for an early dinner. He had to work early the next day. He
is a pilot and flies out of LAX.
About
an hour before we were meeting he text me a picture of himself getting
ready. The text said, “Here is
what I look like today. So you
know who you are looking for.” I
didn’t know if he was hoping I would text him a picture to help him with
identification purposes but I didn’t.
We arrived at roughly the same time. I was just walking up to the restaurant when he was getting
out of the car. We said hello and
quickly hugged.
February
is more attractive in person that in the pictures. He has a very relaxed easygoing way about him. He is 34 and I learned that he was
married for 10 years. Actually the
divorce isn’t even final. The
divorce was not pretty and I think it took him by surprise. I am not sure how ready he is to be
dating again. I think he wants to be ready to date but wanting to be ready and
really being ready are two very different things.
Later in the conversation he told me
that I was his first online dating experience. I then asked if it was his first date since the divorce but
he said no and I didn’t press for any more info. He admitted to being nervous
to date this way. I know I am not
crazy so at least his first online dating experience wasn’t crazy. I told him that I don’t think people
meet organically anymore.
February
has 2 younger children. Through
his stories and the conversation we had he seems like a very attentive caring
dad. It is a really attractive
quality. I know him and the ex
share custody but I don’t know how messy the situation is. The custody arrangement and his work schedule
are what made getting together so difficult.
The
food came and February tried mine.
There was a certain amount of comfort between us. He also wanted to order desert. We shared this rosewater ice cream. It
taste like eating a sweet frozen rose. It was different.
February
brought on of the games that he had told me about with him. It is this game called Quarriors. It kind of reminded me of Yugio because
it had attack levels and defensive levels as well as other special things but
was more complex and used dice. He
taught me how to play. It was
silly fun. I won but I don’t think he played very hard against me. I wondered afterwards if he had ever
heard of Geocaching. I think he
would like that too.
February
is really easy to talk to. The
conversation flowed easily. He
talked about having a few questions in the back of his mind just incase the
conversation didn’t flow. I asked
for examples and he asked me, “What is you favorite dinosaur and why?” The question made me smile. It was a random question but I really
liked the randomness and silliness of it. Toward the end of the date he said “here are some
things you should know” and then he freely shared some random fairly person
things about him and his kids. I
wasn’t quite sure where he was going with it. Did it mean he wanted to see me again?
We
left the restaurant.
February did not walk me to my car. I mean his car was closer to the door so we reached it
first. But still. My car was like 20 yards away and
walking a date to her car is a nice gesture. He also did not ask me to text him when I got home. It was an early date and the sun was
just setting when we left. Asking me to text when I get home is not necessary
but it is a nice gesture. Is
he just out of practice with dating?
Am I being to narrow in my view of normal dating routines?
February
and I hugged goodbye. He mentioned
getting together again. He is a
really nice guy and it was an easy going, relaxed, no pressure kind of first
date. We do seem to have terrible
scheduling conflicts which will make a second date difficult but not
impossible.
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