Have you heard of Tinder?

I deleted my OKStudpid account and then thought, “Oh Shit! Now how am I going to meet someone?” I had read about this app called Tinder and decided to give it a try.

In case you don’t know.  Tinder is a free app that connects with your Facebook profile.  It pulls your name, age, and pictures from your Facebook profile.  Tinder will also tell you what common friends and shared interests you have with each Tinder member on your recommendations list. 

Tinder uses the GPS on your phone to search for potential matches.  You can set a few preferences like age and distance.  The profile consists of name, age, up to 5 pictures, a tagline, distance away, and any shared interest or friends.  It is very basic and many people do not even have a witty tagline.  The way it works is simple.  If you are not interested in the person you simply swipe the picture to the left or hit the X button.  A stamp that says “Nope” will appear over the picture and it will move to the left.  However if you like what see than you can swipe the picture to the right or hit the heart shaped button.  A stamp that says, “Liked” appears over the picture and the profile moves to the right.  If that person also “Liked” you then the app lets you know.  A screen pops up that says, “It’s a Match” and prompts you to send a message. 

  The match will also be listed in the My Matches section and you can send text messages through the app.  The app makers of Tinder have a good sense of humor.  When you click on a match Tinder again prompts you to start communicating and has some funny little messages such as...

~Conversations don’t write themselves

~Staring at this screen wont start a convo…

~Tinder can’t type for you…..actually, it could, but it won’t.

~Say thanks for swiping right

~You’re not getting any younger.

~Google some good one liners.

~Stop being boring

~In many cultures silence is considered rude

~See that box down there? Type something into it.

~You both like things. Talk about them. 

~You can tell your kids you met on Tinder.

~ #TalkToYourTinder

And my favorites

~Have no fear, Tinder is here!

And

~Ready to get Tinderized?

What exactly is Tinderized?  I don't know but it sounds fun.  

I do know that Tinder has been my favorite time waste.  It is so amusing to see what characters pop up and is slightly addictive.  

It's August........ WOW Time Flies

Ladies and Gentlemen,

August marks my 1 year anniversary on my Date of the Month Challenge.  WOW!!! 

It is also my birthday.  Yeah!!  I feel truly blessed to be surrounded by wonderful friends and family, have a job that I love doing, and be this fucking rad.  Toot Toot.  


This past year has been an adventure.  In many different ways.  I started thinking about the whole year and wanted to recap my adventures in dating land.  

August
Met: OKStupid
Date: Weekday Lunch 
Pros: Nice guy....we still text occasionally.  
Cons: He is busy.  We had a quick weekday lunch date...I dont like lunch dates.  

September #1
Met: OkStupid
Date: Coffee Date
Pros: Very witty
Cons: He had a black widow spider tattoo on his neck....I WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM! 

September #2
Met: OKStupid
Date: Improv show and dinner
Pros: The improv show was great.
Cons: We had nothing in common and he was boring.

October

Met: OKStupid

Date: Saturday Late Lunch

Pros: He was Sexy and complimentary.

Cons: In the first 10 minutes he asked me if I believed in god  and later asked if I had father issues.

November

Met: OKStupid

Date: Sunday Night Drinks 

Pros: Easy to talk to.

Cons: Believes prostitution should be legal and made a comment that all guys pay for sex by paying for dates.  

December #1

Met: OkStupid       (seeing the trend)

Date: Sunday Night Dinner

Pros: cute and easy to talk to

Cons: He said  I was maternal.... but the biggest con is that he just wasn't that into me.  

December #2

Met: Yep OKStupid

Date: Monday Night Dinner/Drinks

Pros: Very Chivalrous and sweet

Cons: Lulls in the conversation. We went out a few times.....I am very blunt and I dont think he liked my brand of crazy.  

December #3

Met: You guessed it, OKStupid

Date: Friday night dinner

Pros: Complimented me on my storytelling.  He was also very direct

Cons: Awkward High 5 over mutual dislike, uses the made up word chillaxing, and was irritatingly concerned that I text him when I arrived home.  

January

NONE....I failed this month

February

Met: OkStupid

Date: Early Dinner after work

Pros: out of the norm date....he taught me how to play this card game after we ate.  

Cons: Very Recently divorced was married for 10 years and seemed to be very out of practice with dating norms

March

Met: OKStupid

Date: Dinner Friday Night

Pros: Flexible and easy going.  He quickly changed plans when things went wrong.

Cons: There were no immediate cons...we went out quite a few times.  He just isnt that into me.  

April

Met: OKStupid

Date: Sunday Late Lunch

Pros: He is persistent.

Cons: Terrible text spelling "Wuts up?", made comment that he was my Future Baby Daddy

May and June
Met: Through a friend
Date: Saturday Night Dinner and Drinks
Pros: Easy to talk to and fun to be around, great sense of humor, charming, confidents (I could go on)
Cons: No Sexual Chemistry between us.  I could list that we are still friends as one of the pros.  

July
Met: OKStupid 
Date: Coffee 
Pros: Great conversationalist over email.  
Cons: Awkward lulls in conversation, indecisive about live and future 

And now I have come right back around to August.  I could have titled this year, Adventures in OKStupidville. 

A few months ago my mom made a comment about my dating life and asked, "Are you taking this serious?"  I quickly informed her that yes I am taking this seriously.  I put more thought into really thinking about how the date goes and don't get giddy over not so great guys, I know more about what I want and deserve, and I put more effort into dating.   This past year I dated 13 different guys.  I stayed in the game and actively dated.  If I think back to my 20's there is years where I don't remember dating at all.  I know I don't have the best memory and I quite possibly may be trying to block out certain guys/dates.  Now I feel more in control of my dating life and I don't feel any stigma that is often attached to being single.  

I welcome the next year of my dating challenge.  Who said, "Fasten your seatbelt.  It's going to be a bumpy ride"?     Whoever it was, they are brilliant.  Life is an adventure and dating is just part of the ride.  

August is also my birthday.  So please give me the gift of sharing.  Share my blog with all your friends and family.  Who knows maybe one of them knows someone that would appreciate my brand of crazy.  Thanks for reading!!!!

Date of the Month-July Tuesday early evening coffee

So I cut it very close but I did have my July Date of the Month.  He is the last guy that I was talking to on OKStupid.  We emailed back and forth for months like at least 2 emails a week.  I wanted to look up the date of the first message but I deleted my OKStupid account.  We emailed pretty regularly.  When I decided to delete my account I told him and we exchanged info.  So we text back and forth for a few weeks and talked on the phone a few times.  He is pretty chatty online and via text. We had talked about hanging out but I ended up picked the date.  I volunteer for Make-A-Wish and had a meeting with a wish kid in his area so i suggested we hang out.  We arranged to meet for coffee.  

I got there first (I was actually early) and sat outside waiting.  He showed up and wow is he tall.   He is 6"3.  Holly shit!!  I am only 5"2 so you can just imagine how that looked.  He probably has to duck to get through some doorways and I can barely reach the second shelf in the kitchen cabinets in my apartment.  

July is 1/2 Japanese 1/2 white.  He is a military brat and lived in Japan as a child before moving to the states.   He moved to Tennessee before Jr High  and has a slight southern accent.  Not enough to make him sound unintelligent.  In my opinion the southern accent sounds better when it comes from a woman.  His accents was slight and only noticeable occasionally.  

I noticed he had a yin and yang necklace on around his neck.  Kinda looked like this one.  

Is the origin of Yin and Yang Japanese?  Huhhh I wonder.  Are you wondering?  

Hold on.  I Am going to google it. 

Huhh...... 



So no.  Yin and Yang is Chinese philosophy.   So I guess he just really likes the ideas of complementary forces which is what Yin and Yang represent.  


I told him about my friend Jaymie.  I think I was 24 when we met.  It is a pretty crazy story.  Did you notice that we spell our names the same way?  It isnt as common as other spellings.  We are also 6  months apart to the day.  My birthday is Aug 13.  Yes it is coming up.  And her birthday is Feb 13th.  Many, many years ago we went to the fair together.  There was a booth to get a necklace of the phase of the moon on your birthday.  We looked it up.  I was born on a Full Moon she was born on a New Moon.  I am a complete extrovert but she is more introverted.  There is other random things that are complimentary about my friend Jaymie and I.  

I saw his necklace and told him about her.  We also talked about our friends and family.  We talked about work.  We chatted about movies and other things that I just cant recall right now. There was more than a few awkward silences.  I noticed myself saying, "so ya" as filler.  

We hung out for just over an hour.  He was really chatty via email and text but not so much in person.  I have the ability to help carry a conversation and save from a painful death but I struggled a bit with July.  I was really glad we didn't plan to meet for dinner.